The Theory of Otherness in the Memoirs of Children about their Mothers: A Reading through Drunk Mom and A Child Called It

Mother, as a verb, means to nurture. It has always been believed that a child is the safest near their mothers. Otherness means something that doesn't fit the established norms. Mothers as toxic is something hard to believe as we have seen them near to God, whether it be Mother Mary or Kaushalya. But over time, we have seen mothers behaving violently and traumatising their children. In the memoirs by Jovita Bydlowska and Dave Pelzer, we find such mothers who are the reason for their children's sufferings. They beat them, starved them and made their childhood a haunting ride that ultimately affected their whole life. It's necessary to see mothers as humans and to point out such things so that norms and concepts can be debunked. Through this paper, I would analyse the psyche of such mothers and present them in light of the otherness of the concept of mother. Mother as a noun and mother as a verb are two different things. Childhood, according to Tarkovsky, is one of the best phases of anyone's life, and if that life suffers, then it leaves a mark, which creates psychological problems for the child. Many mothers confessed that they hated their children at first instant and some competitive mothers tried to compete with their children.

Keywords: Mother, toxic, other, memoir, children